Q. Whenever I meet a girl it always comes down to sex. Don’t get me wrong, the sex is great, but I’m well-endowed and sometimes I feel like a piece of meat in the sack. I’m looking for that girl who makes me think of her in a way that is more than just sexual. —Chris, junior

Jessi: Perhaps you should pick up a pair of metal underwear. Maybe then you could begin to date women without sex being a factor so early on. Get to know the person first and then bring sex into the equation when it’s mutually desired. Relationships need a firm foundation built of things other than just steamy sex. All it takes is some self-respect and self-control... and those metal underoos.

Chris: Waiting two months or two years to have sex won’t guarantee the relationship will be any better than if you waited two days or two hours to sex it up. Great couples can develop in any circumstances if the chemistry it correct. It sounds as though you’re just expecting more than your partner and should enjoy what you have for what it is, consistent sex. Enjoy it whilst it lasts.

Q. There’s this girl in one of my classes that I’m crazy about, but it’s a big lecture class and we’ve never met or sat by each other. I’m wanting to talk to her, but this late in the semester it’ll seem dumb to introduce myself. And I’m embarrassed she’s seen me looking at her and thinks I’m psycho. Tips? –Alan, freshman

Jessi: Well, since you’re physically obsessing over her, (and yes, you’re obsessing if you’re “crazy” about someone based on looks alone), then it’s probably time you approached her as more than just eye candy. I’m a fan of “I’m really not a whatever-class-it-is - pro and I was wondering if you’d mind tutoring my stupid ace.” This line is appropriate usually after class or during if you’re somehow lucky enough to snag a seat next to this foxy minx.

Chris: Maybe she has seen you looking at her. You sound like a starer. Regardless, if you end the semester without talking to her, you’ll regret it for years. Or until you become fixated on some girl in summer class. I’d either sit where she usually does and hope she sits by or near enough you to talk to her. Then just ball up, and say hi. Get to know her a little, then if you have to, just say “I know this is out of the blue, but would you like to study for the final with me?” If she says yes, good. If she says no, say “Well, how about just getting wasted?”

Q. School is killing me right now, and I can’t keep my priorities straight. I want to do well in school, be a good girlfriend to my guy, spend enough time with my girlfriends and I can’t do all three without someone feeling neglected. What should I do? —Amy, junior

Chris: Have they told you they feel neglected or are you just assuming? You may be doing a better job than you think you are. And if someone is feeling left out of your life, make what time you do have count. Maybe surprise your BF with something different in bed, go out to a nice dinner with all your GF’s and drop all your classes. Even those for next fall. It’ll work, trust me.

Jessi: I like lists. Call it old-fashioned, but when you list the things that matter to you most in life and see it visualized on paper (gym with Julie or dinner-date with Freddy), it puts things in perspective and helps motivate you to work for those things. Don’t forget your “me-time” in the meantime. It’ll benefit you and your fav people when you invest in yourself.