My boyfriend is always looking at and talking about other women. I don’t know what to make of this. What do you think it means? — Andrea, sophomore

It means he’s an asshole. Or maybe he’s testing you to see how you’ll react. Or maybe he just feels comfortable enough around you to discuss other people’s looks. Or maybe you could just ask him. In the end, your choices are to a) deal with it b) dump him and find someone with eyes only for you (at least in front of you) or c) try to change the behavior. Or you can even try all of the above. Just make sure the guy you’re with is making you feel good. Otherwise, why are you with him?

I think I’m falling for a girl in my chem class. The problem is, I’m also a girl. I haven’t ever been with a girl, but I find myself really attracted to her. We have a great time together and we’re getting close, but I don’t know if she’s feeling the same thing or if she would be totally repulsed. Should I risk it? — Anna, junior

You have to be willing to take the risk if you want to get results. Or the girl. Is it possible she’ll be totally disgusted and never speak to you again? Sure, it’s possible. But if she reacts like that, is she a true friend anyway? Definitely not.

Be prepared for a potentially awkward encounter, but if she’s a mature adult she should be able to say, “Aww, well, I’m flattered, but I actually don’t feel that way”, just like she would with a guy. Or maybe she’ll say, “Wow! I’d been feeling the exact same thing!” You’ll never know until you ask.

I’m a senior and have never had a boyfriend. I’m panicking. I mean, the older I get, the more limited my on-campus options become. for guys, when they’re seniors, they have the whole campus to pick from. But as a girl, I’m not really interested in dating freshmen boys. I’m worried I’ll never meet a guy. — Natasha, senior

You’re right, the laws of nature aren’t totally fair. Men can create babies until the day they die, but women dry up around 45. Old men (with money) end up with Playboy bunnies and Anna Nicoles, but there’s no old hag with a Brad Pitt or a Dr. McDreamy. But maybe you’re being a little too negative. After all, Demi’s not an old hag, but she did land Ashton, and the older woman-younger man thing is becoming more and more mainstream. So don’t write off everyone younger than you. If you met a guy and hit it off and later found out he was a year younger, would that mean the connection you had wasn’t real? No way! Second of all, there are plenty of available senior men on this campus. So quit thinking that just because you’re getting older you don’t have any options. There are nice guys all around you. And don’t forget these two words: grad students.