How picky is too picky?

Friday, September 21, 2007

Have you ever broken up with someone because they had smelly feet? Matt Cole has. Being too picky often presents a problem in relationships. Whether a girl’s nose is too big or a guy’s biceps are too small, pickiness is usually looked down upon.

Cole, an Overland Park junior, managed to cover up his shallow reasoning with an acceptable excuse.

“If you dump someone for a specific reason, that’s probably too picky. But if it’s just generally not working, you’re being selective,” Cole said.

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But when is the line crossed between being too picky and being selective?

Students vary on how long they think daters should stay in relationships to guarantee not being labeled as too picky. Emily Bruschi, Leawood junior, thinks that a couple of weeks are necessary.

“Anything less than that and you don’t have time to get to know them,” Bruschi said.

Brian Giebink, Rolla, Mo., senior, agreed.

“If you’re going on a different date every week, you’re being too picky,” Giebink said.

Students agree that there is a difference between knowing exactly what daters are after and being picky or selective.

“You should give the relationship at least three dates. Then you know if their personality is what you’re looking for,” Giebink said.

Next time you are thinking about breaking up with someone, take a step back and ask yourself, “Am I doing this for the right reasons? Or, am I being too picky?”

— Edited by Elizabeth Cattell

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