A little libido goes a long way

By Brieun Scott

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Temperature hot, sweaty palms and increased heart rate. They’re all things people feel when noticing that particularly attractive man or woman. It is an intense feeling of longing that creates a sexual appetite in humans.

What cause such symptoms? Try sexual desire.

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Five Aphrodisiacs

Rhino Horn

If looks could turn you off, then one would definitely be discourage from sex with one look at a rhinos horn. But, according to ScienceLive.com, the phallic-resembled horn is why it’s made the charts of turn-ons. The site states that it’s an old medicinal remedy to grind them up in eat them. The Food Drug and Administration states that a rhino’s horn a “significant amount of calcium and phosphorous, which would generally enhance performance.”

Alcohol

Alcohol… what can one say other than it could be a pleasure to drink or a pleasure-killing beverage. In this case, alcohol is just… alcohol. ScienceLive.com states that alcohol is nothing more than another way to “lower inhibitions and raise level of one’s irrationality.”

Chocolate

Hmm… that’s usually the first thing that comes to mind when one thinks of chocolate. According to ScienceLive.com, chocolate contains “phenyl ethylamine and serotonin, two chemicals that light up pleasure in the brain.” Aside from having two pleasure ingredients, chocolate just taste good.

Oysters

Do slimy and smelly oysters really influence sexual desire? According to SixWise.com, oysters have not scientifically been proven to enhance sexual desire. In fact, it’s all a myth. The site states that the reason oysters have been known to increase sexual pleasure is because of a resemblance “genetalia,” that may “possess sexual powers.”

Spanish Fly

No, this is not a fly from Spain, but a powder that’s put in drinks in order to decrease rationality. The powder is made up of the beatle and the acid-like juice known as cantharidan, according to howstuffworks.com. The consumed powder causes irrationality and irritation to the genitals, which was once considered sexual arousal, but was later, found to be toxic.

Some answered the question ‘How do you know you’re feeling sexual desire?’ with a blush and or a laugh.

“My stomach turns to butterflies and I blush,” Camie Quilt, graduate student, said.

“I get modest around the person because you don’t want them to know you have that urge for them,” Kellen Mahone, Lawrence resident, said.

“Tingly, just giddy — happy like,” Andrea Koch, Lawrence junior, said.

“I can’t stop smiling,” Ashley Sakumura, Fort Hays State sophomore said. “I’m just excited to spend time with that someone.”

What is sexual desire, exactly?

“Just when you’re physically attracted to someone, you just want to get a little closer to them,” Koch said.

“It’s the desire to have a physical and emotional connection with someone — to take the relationship to the next level,” Sakumura said.

Dennis Detweiler, sex therapist, said sexual desire was made up of two concepts: interest and drive. He said interest focused on what one liked and with whom one is interested in; and drive was the energy to act on that interest.

Researchers have found that there‘s more to sexual desire than physical attractiveness. Different influences such as the emotional and psychological also play a role in sexual desire — although the physical is a big factor.

According to “Disorders of Sexual Desire,” by sex therapist Helen Kaplan, “he may feel genital sensations or he may feel vaguely sexy, interest in sex, open to sex or even just restless.”

The brain plays a role in sexual desire as well. Some researchers have found that it isn’t one particular area, but the neuro-path way in the brain. Detweiler said the brain as a whole contributed to sexual desire, but he believed hormones were a key player.

The lows of sexual desire

There are several factors that can hinder or encourage a person’s sexual desire.

Detweiler said that stress hormones such as cordorzone and adrenaline impinged on hormones that one needs for sexual desire. He said it also could be used to increase hormone drive.

“Some people use sex to mitigate stress,” Detweiler said.

He said negative dissociations such as abuse, rape, assault or an unhealthy relationship would also affected one’s desire.

“Anything paired negatively with sex equates negative desire,” Detweiler said.

He said for college students, a bad relationship could be the problem. The dynamics of the relationship would cause high drama, be controlling or demanding and end the relationship with resentment and anger.

Other negative influences are parental anxiety, religion and even sexual desire itself. Detweiler said the levels of sexual desire were different for everyone.

“One who wants more could pester or make the other’s drive go down,” he said.

He said too much pressure and resentment in the relationship could decrease one’s sexual desire.

Myths of sexual desire: It’s about more than sex

We’ve all heard them, the myths of the “whys and why not’s” of sex. Unfortunately, it’s the same myths that have an effect on sexual desire.

Detweiler said when it comes to myths, he’d heard most of them. He said he heard myths from men’s blue balls to a woman’s worth equating to beauty.

He said the most damaging myth was one that pertained to sex being limited.

“When we limit sex to genitals and intercourse, we become over-focused on orgasm,” Detweiler said.

He said sexual desire was more than intercourse; it’s about tenderness, sensuality, caring, respect and alternative ways to be together.

“When people limit what we call sex, they limit the ways people can relate,” Detweiler said. “Interest and drive don’t get to flourish.”

Detweiler said sexual desire was also the longing for eroticism: to be seen, to be kissed and to be wanted. He said most people just want to wanted, just to flirt.

“People want to know that they have the capacity to influence other people in my environment,” Detweiler said.

Something close and intimate, an emotional and physical connection is what most people desire to have.

Sexual desire...just let it be

There are times when we try to downplay our desires and emotions and set them on the back burner, but Detweiler said to just let it be.

“Desire is a human quality. You’re not human if you don’t experience sexual desire,” he said.

Detweiler said that condemning sexuality was unhealthy. He said people should give a voice to desire and allow it a better outlet.

“If you put lid on desire, it goes out sideways,” Detwieler said.

He said finding the right channels for desire could promote healthy sexuality. He said if people welcomed desire, it led to positive integration.

He said emotions could confuse what one considered sexual desire, and a hurtful relationships could make people focus on the physical in the relationship. Moreover, Detweiler said that sexual desire was very complex. He said people should have a healthy self-concept and attitude toward sex and sexuality by respecting the self and holding out for relationships that are capable of being close, intimate relationships with knowledge of sex.

— Edited by Rustin Dodd

Comments

DaytonMooreMooreMoore (anonymous) says...

“he may feel genital sensations or he may feel vaguely sexy, interest in sex, open to sex or even just restless.”

I always get this feeling when I watch old tapes of the 2003 Royals

July 17, 2008 at 11:44 a.m. ( | suggest removal )

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