Tuesday, April 7, 2009
The old adage of men and women being from separate planets is not new to anyone, yet I find myself more puzzled than ever before. The Gilmore Girls said it best when claiming that it’s not Mars and Venus, because at least they’re both planets, but more like Venus and a bowl of soup. (Men are obviously the soup in this case.)
As a freshman I anticipated the college-dating world to differ from high school immensely. Yet, it seems that while girls are continuing to mature, the boys are still yelling out arbitrary birdcalls from the dorm stoop at 2 a.m. and having “condom wars” in the community bathroom. I had hoped that living on our own meant we had become respectable adults, but apparently I was completely off-base.
Aside from the vast discrepancy in maturity levels, with the increasingly popular independent-woman type, the rules of dating have become completely undefined. It is no longer a black and white issue, but instead a big gray mess. Who is supposed to do which embarrassing action at what inconvenient time?
Opening doors, paying for meals and offering that jacket on a chilly evening are not necessary acts in today’s dating world. These old-fashioned tactics are often overlooked and forgotten, though many girls still appreciate them. I think it’s fair to say that most girls can be independent and take care of themselves. When have we ever rested all responsibility on a male? That’s just asking for disappointment. But let’s face it; there are certain times when we expect guys to step up to the plate.
Take making the first move, for example. It’s awkward, it’s dreaded, but somebody has got to do it. Men, I’m talking about you. We females can only flirt and make obvious hints for so long before losing interest and moving on to someone who can take charge of the situation. Trust me, we aren’t flirting with you because we have nothing better to do with our time. We are in college, after all, and have endless amounts of homework. But that shy smile and playful hair twirling, that’s for you, bud. So how about you man up and start a conversation? I can guarantee your efforts will be rewarded.
The fact of the matter is, there are just certain things guys are expected to do. Hey, I don’t like the fact that women so often become your mother and cook and clean for you, but for some reason so many of us do it.
I can’t say exactly why this monumental first step is a crucial component for the male’s success. I’m not sure anyone really knows, but it’s what many women want, plain and simple.
I’ll be the first to admit that most women, myself included, generally like to be in control. But when it comes to the opposite sex, we like to be taken care of, too, every once in a while. There’s plenty of time for us to wear the pants when we’re married, but for now, get your game face on, give us that winning smile and take charge!
— Wilson is a Hutchinson freshman in journalism and English.
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Wilson: Making first move may be tough, but it’s a guy’s job
this article sounds like it was either written by a robot, or 20 minutes before a deadline.
Wilson: Making first move may be tough, but it’s a guy’s job
dchanay, clearly Ann worked very hard on this trash. You shouldn't be so dismissive.
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