Kansas in heat: getting fit for sex

Thursday, October 8, 2009

If you are looking to increase your libido and the amount of pleasure you get from sex, you should think about adopting a lifestyle that is fit for it. Being great at sex often requires a lot of work outside of the bedroom, but the extra effort will benefit you as well as your partner. Here some tips to improve your fitness for sex.

1) You’ll need to exercise and keep a fit body. A healthy body means better sex. Exercise will increase bloodflow, reduce stress, make you feel sexier, increase your stamina and even enhance your orgasm. Also, I recommend that both genders exercise their PC muscles. The PC muscle contracts during an orgasm and a stronger muscle makes for a more pleasurable experience. By doing a few simple PC exercises, known as Kegels, one can greatly increase the amount of pleasure he or she derives from an orgasm.

2) Be sure to get at least seven hours of sleep per night. Fatigue will certainly have a negative effect on your libido, as well as add to your anxiety.

3) Stop smoking. Smoking can ravage your body in countless ways that will affect bloodflow in men and perceived physical pleasure in both sexes.

4) Avoid excessive amounts of alcohol. A little is good but a lot can hurt sexual responsiveness, not to mention affect your decision-making abilities.

5) The major thing you can do to reach your sexual peak is to watch what you eat. Junk food is a libido killer. High cholesterol levels are associated with erection problems. Here is a list of some foods, herbs and minerals that will get your libido going.

Caffeine: Believe it or not, people who consume caffeine are more likely to be sexually active. Men who drink coffee also have lower levels of erectile dysfunction.

Chocolate: It contains two compounds that have sex-enhancing effects. Plus it can be used in a very sexual way.

Fish: The omega-3 fatty acids found in fish help men raise and keep erections and help women with their ability to produce vaginal lubrication and become aroused.

Licorice: The smell is supposed to help men increase penile bloodflow.

Oysters: Yes, the myth is true. Foods rich in zinc such as oysters can help combat issues that deal with infertility and libido loss in both men and women.

I’ve also read that the herbs ginko and ginseng can help restore lost sexual desire, but the research on this is sometimes shaky.

The last couple of lifestyle changes that might help you reach your sexual peak are making sex a priority and being a little more adventurous. If you want to maintain an active and strong sex life you must make sex a priority. And don’t let the sex get stale. Dare to be sexier. Add some adventure and spontaneity in your sex life. If I asked you to name your most daring sexual experience, would it be g-rated or x-rated? A sexual relationship plagued with predictability will wreak havoc on a libido.

Mike Anderson, Dellwood, Minn., graduate student, is the host of Kansas in Heat, a talk show about sex and relationships that airs Wednesdays at 8 p.m. on KJHK, 90.7fm and at kjhk.org.

*THE OPINIONS OF THIS COLUMNIST DO NOT NECESSARILY REFLECT THE VIEWS OF JAYPLAY. KANSAS IN HEAT IS NOT TO BE CONSIDERED AS A SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL HELP.

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