Ho: Social cue ignorance offensive

A way dumb and offensive cultural norm in backward places of the lower midwest and southern U.S. is to approach complete strangers on the basis of what amounts to patronizing biases and profiling bigotry and to ask the mindless question"Need help.?" Please consider how you might feel to have a complete stranger approach YOU with such a forward, presumptuous and self-flattering attitude.("I'm concerned about you: you look promiscuous. Have you been checked for STDS lately?") It is way dumb and offensive to believe most people need help crossing the street or that they would allow a stranger to handle their bags or molest their person. To behave like this is to interfere with other people's reasonable right to feel safe and to have their personal boundaries and dignity respected in public.You are treating people differently in an illegal way and interfering with their equal education and employment rights. There is a new hate-crime law in effect addressing this form of harassment, so please don't approach strangers and get up in their private business on the basis of offensive sterotypes--it's a privacy and civil rights violation. It represents very questionable judgment, and it's also why places like Lawrence and Columbia are treated like laughingstocks and viewed as hick enclaves.

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• Posted by Denver on October 29, 2009 at 12:55 p.m.
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Ho: Social cue ignorance offensive

Well, call me a bumpkin if you like, but my mama taught me to help anyone else who looks like they might need help. I guess you big city folk just don't have hearts. Like for instance, if Ms. Ho was being harassed by a feller like she says, a good ole southern boy should feel obliged to ask her if she'd like him to intervene. Or if a nice old lady is struggling to get her groceries to her car, offering to carry some is commendable. But like I said, if you don't have a heart, you don't have a heart. I suppose it's just one more disability.

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• Posted by pantheon on October 29, 2009 at 2:23 p.m.
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Ho: Social cue ignorance offensive

Get a clue, pantheon. The cultural norm I describe above ranks among the cruelest forms of kindness to which anyone could ever hope to be subjected. Thinking people recognize the difference between appearance and reality: "Looking like" is not the same as "being" something. You should not make this judgment about a stranger. Most people today don't like being messed with by strangers in public--it scares them. It's just not smart to trust jerks who would try insinuating themselves into others' lives so offensively--might be a thug or a mugger.

Discrimination means treating people differently. Per civil rights law it's illegal to regard or treat people as having a disability--it creates an uneven playing field-- especially harassing when we are talking about approaching complete strangers with this officious attitude. If you are bothering someone who might not require accomodations to work or study than this behavior could represent an especially cruel privacy violation--everyone deserves to work and study at their level of ability --to develop their potential and to use their talents. Clumsy people like you interfere with this right. Every human quality exists on a spectrum: sometimes these qualities are more perceived than real. It represents a sick joke to any self-respecting feminist that your mother taught yourself to see yourself as a gentleman for messing with anyone's valued independence--especially someone you don't know from Eve. You may be disrespectfully treating people as if they are dependent or have concerning flaws and thus making life more difficult for a complete stranger by assigning them an unfair and insulting "helpee" role. Impossibility thinking is rarely appreciated,no?. Stop acting as if strangers owe you thanks for ruining their day.Your freedom ends where my nose begins: you have no right to interfere with me based on disrespectful prejudice.

Do you flatter yourself you have an big heart and that you are helpful and moral based on a one-sided, culturallly imperialist perspective-- the way you presumptuously get up in others' business like a dog conditioned by Pavlov? It's great you aspire to such accolades, but you'll not earn them by terrorizing strangers. Bottom-line, it's disrespectful to judge strangers by one-dimensional stereotypes. This genocidal attack on intelligent life in the universe is probably covered by the new hate-crime laws. A big difference exists between pity and compassion and true caring---but maybe your momma didn't teach you that. Pantheon, please don't call people names either or make such offensive assumptions about others in real life or on these posts. Brawn and ignorance on the basis of dumb ways of living tries to privilege itself over brains and feeling wisdom, huh? Not actually from a big city, but have lived in many, all more sane and humane and with bigger, more understanding hearts than Lawrence has.

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• Posted by Denver on October 29, 2009 at 7:46 p.m.
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Ho: Social cue ignorance offensive

In a nutshell, pantheon(Do you see yourself as god(s) or what?)when someone tells you what you defiine as "help" feels like harassment and bigotry to them you should respect this. It is simply not acceptable to patronize people and interfere with their equal educational and employment rights in a self-respecting University town. You are in college now, so please learn to treat all people equally and like human beings.Leave strangers alone: spare them the ignorant prejudices your momma taught you. Many p people think I almost shine with kind-heartedness, but I'm certainly not saintly enough to tolerate being ambushed and terrorized by complete busybody strangers in public.

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• Posted by Denver on October 29, 2009 at 8:04 p.m.
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Ho: Social cue ignorance offensive

1) My user-name is a quasi-portmanteau of my first name. 2) You are clearly not aware of the Whaley family motto: You can't tell me what to do 3) I'm just messing with you, gimpy. Your arguments are pretty awful, and I just like to rile you up like a bunny rabbit teasing a scorpion. In this simile, I am the bunny rabbit, and you are the scorpion. I am adorable and soft, and you are disgusting and filled with venom.

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• Posted by pantheon on November 2, 2009 at 11:13 p.m.
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Ho: Social cue ignorance offensive

Oh, BURN. Pantheon is my favorite. I'm pretty sure a fan club is in order.

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• Posted by andrealp on November 3, 2009 at 9:51 a.m.
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