Welcome to the New Year. Let’s make it good. I can’t wait to see the strides we make for gay rights in 2010, but first, let’s look at some resolutions anyone can make!

1. Come out. This may not apply to everyone, but as I wrote last semester, visibility matters. There are millions of people around the globe who feel as if they are alone in homosexuality. Knowing this isn’t the case will change their world and ours. Not to mention we can’t stop ignorance and homophobia if we stay in the closet. After all, nobody likes the cramped feeling of the closet. Free yourself. It’s so much better where the air is clear.
2. Put down the cigarettes. According to studies from the American Journal of Preventive Medicine, LGBT people are 40-70% more likely to smoke than non-LGBT. Even more alarming? In a recent national study of youth 18-24, 45% of females and 35% of males reporting same-sex attraction smoke cigarettes. That’s in comparison to the 29% of U.S. youth. Quitting is hard, but it’s one of the best things you can do for your health. You don’t need me to tell you that — the facts are everywhere.
3. Meet someone new. This goes without saying and not just for the gay community. Holla at all my single ladies (and gents.) What’s the harm in creating a list of all the good traits you want in someone and putting it out there? Nobody wants to be lonely. With this nasty winter spell we’re having, a warm body certainly keeps the chill out. So put yourself out there! Still, you don’t have to settle right away or fall for the first person that flashes you a smile.
4. Fight for gay rights. Is your state or town currently battling a gay marriage ban? What about legislation that forbids protection of homosexuals or gender identity? Maybe you want to bring more awareness to the world. There’s no better time than the present. Sitting around and listening for someone else to take action is useless when you could be doing it at this moment. Being willing to fight for your rights can and will inspire others to do the same. It doesn’t just do you a favor; it does the community and our world a favor. We all deserve to be equal.
5. Work on relationships and friendships. Nurture the relationships you have. Especially in the gay community, friends are often closer than family. Show your love and respect and let the people you love know how much you care. Even if it’s as simple as a hug or grand as cooking a gourmet meal, show it. Look past the flaws and treasure loved ones for the good they’ve brought out in you. Who doesn’t appreciate love and support? Good deeds come full circle.

Even if these resolutions aren’t for you, make and stick to goals that bring out the best in you and add to the happiness of others. As for me? I’m already doing numbers two and four; being out, proud and writing about the LGBT community is my way of changing the world and myself.

Here’s wishing you the best on a new year and a new you.

— Bornstien is a Lawrence senior in sociology and women's studies.