Q: I have been with my boyfriend for four years and our sex life has been amazing. But he recently told me he likes to have his butthole played with. Should I be worried?

MICHELLE MACBAIN:

A: Your boyfriend is curious about heightening his orgasms, which can be a wonderful exploratory experience as a sexual couple. Exploring fantasies supports the development of intimacy and trust.

 If you don’t like inserting your finger, you can use thin vibrators or curved massagers.

 If you make an effort and still have apprehension, express this and I’m sure he will understand!

MIKE ANDERSON:

A: Don’t be worried that he is now some sort of sexual deviant. Think of his P-spot as a different version of your G-spot. Academic articles and popular press have written about the strength of the orgasm that comes from prostate stimulation.

 I understand that his request might have caught you off guard, but I recommend giving it a shot if you feel comfortable.