We would like to thank Mike Anderson for his time here at Jayplay. We wish him the best of luck after graduation!

In my final Jayplay column I’ll try to sum up what I’ve learned while at KU. I’ve done 175 shows, written more than 60 columns and answered hundreds of questions about sex and relationships. The most common question I got was, “Am I normal because I like or do X?” I was and will always be shocked by the fear that people have of being “abnormal.” Everyone has fetishes, preferences and fantasies.

The people that have called into my show aren’t just people that are new to relationships or sexually inexperienced. Often they’re people who thought they had it figured out, but now question themselves. The best I can do with this final column is offer you advice from my years of reading, research and interviews.

If you want to initiate a romantic relationship, then talk to people with confidence, like you’ve done it a million times before. Don’t put too much pressure on one conversation, ditch the cocky smile and make it genuine. Use intrigue, trust and comfort as your tools.

If you want to enhance a relationship then you have to stay active. Make memories with that person by utilizing your time with them wisely. The more memories you share, the deeper your connection will be.

Maintaining a relationship comes from a balance of routine and spontaneity. Passion is the easiest thing to lose in relationships; you have to keep it alive. It’s important to celebrate milestones and anniversaries, even the small ones. A couple that celebrates the day of their first date by going back to that location will probably make it.

And finally, sex. I will forever believe that sexual satisfaction is as important as anything for a healthy relationship. Work on your sex life and share your preferences, fetishes and fantasies. Always be willing to improve at sex. For my longtime listeners and readers, practice T.B.S.

In the end, I want to thank everyone for listening and reading over the years. I have enjoyed every column and every show. Even if you didn’t agree with me, I hope the discussion helped. There are a lot of issues that people don’t talk about, so I hope I was able to bring some of them to light. I hope all your sexual fantasies come true. . .even if they involve me.

All my best,

MIKE ANDERSON

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Today, Dr. Anderson, I dedicate this column to you.

You are more than a lover of Prince, golf, button-down shirts with breast pockets, Minnesota hockey baseball caps, puffy winter vests, softball, sushi, personalized license plates, Bailey ball and Uggs stocking caps. You are more than a host of theme parties, a master of an incredibly terrible Irish accent, flirtation or guitar (acoustic or Rock Band). You embrace the pleasures of life beyond that of the personal satisfaction obtained by deliberately rejecting my request, playing the Veggie Lunch promo and laughing at my painful reaction.

Baby, you’re a star!

Before this column is through, you’ll see my point of view.

Even if I have to scream and shout, oh, baby, you’re a star!

You might not know it now.

Baby, you are! You’re a star!

I don’t want you to stop ‘til you reach the top!

Baby, baby, baby!

You’re a star!

Thank you for our time together. Thank you for sharing with me your passion and humor. I will miss my co-host, my co-contributor and my colleague. I will miss my friend.

You’re my favorite!

MICHELLE MACBAIN